+ my style is changing. give it fashion, hair, design. anything. and that's ok.
+ I have an odd love for graffiti.
+ not having schoolwork to do makes me feel weird. like I don't know what to do with my life anymore now that the semester is over. I've been in school for 3 straight semesters with little to no break in between them. It's so weird!
+ I may or may not be working 4 jobs this summer. that's normal, right?
+ if anyone wants to take me to Tucanos for dinner, I'd be alright with that.
+ being a grown up is scary.
+ I've never been one to take things so seriously. I've always been okay with people not liking me or liking what I do. but now I do- now I care. I need people to like my stuff or I fail at my profession.
+ I cry when I think about having children. Being Mormon, married for 2 years, and without children of my loins is almost a taboo. Even the temple president said that if you're married & able to have children, you should or you're being selfish. other people say that it's worldly to want to get a degree and travel before having children. but is it really all that bad to want those things? am I being selfish to try not to have children while there are girls out there unable to have children?
+ i jumped & shouted when I came out of my last final this afternoon. it felt good to feel the sun on my face & know that everything was awesome.
+ life is about to get crazy awesome.
Live up your life before the kids! Don't let our culture make you think you have to have babies within a time frame. Seriously live it up and enjoy just being with your hubby.
ReplyDeleteThanks Allie :) and congratulations on your cute baby & family!
DeleteI don't think it's anyone's responsibility but your own to decide when the time is right to start a family. The way I see it is that I am working on myself at the moment so I can eventually be a better mother. Some have kids right away. Some wait. It's between you and God :).
ReplyDelete'Tis true! It's just so crazy how our culture is so baby hungry. I mean really!
DeleteHaving children is a choice and only you and Nick will know when you are ready. Don't worry about what anyone else says. As long as you feel you are making the right decisions nothing else matters.
ReplyDeleteThanks Danielle!
DeleteI think spending time being married, and growing personally is the least selfish thing you could do for your future children. The more stable and grounded you are as individuals and a couple the better parents you will be. Once you have kids you can never go back, cherish this time, grow and learn. Then pour all that knowledge and love in to the little lives you create. <3
ReplyDeleteI hope I can be a good parent!! Besides, I love my midnight runs to McDonalds! ;)
DeleteThe discussion of children should occur between: You, your husband and God. No one else can know what is more right for your little family than that. Sometimes I worry what others think and then I say to myself, "Stop it." It is working out quite well. :)
ReplyDeleteCan I copy you and say "Stop it?" haha! I love this. thanks Mindy! p.s. I think you work with one of my old teammates, Calais?
Deleteyay, no school. i feel ya, i think i did 6 semesters in a row. dying. but now im done.
ReplyDeletealso kids, when the times right, the times right.
your time isnt the same as everyone elses.
K
6 semesters in a row?? you CRAZY. but now you're done! woo woo. & thanks, I appreciate it. children are always a sensitive subject.
DeleteWell, I'm not Mormon, so I am not familiar with the Mormon point of view/pressures/whatnot, but I think having kids before you're ready can be a selfish act too -- you end up not being the parent you'd want to be otherwise.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on being done with the semester! I'll be there... soon... I can almost see the light at the end.
Thanks Abbey, I agree. I'm too much of a child myself to have children, haha! But good luck to you as well, I hope school doesn't last too much longer!!
DeleteAbbey took the words right out of my mouth! You don't want to rush in to something that big before you're ready or all you're gonna be focused on is what you kissed out on. It'll all happen the way it's supposed to happen. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Julia! :) It's always such a weird subject, but I'm glad to have friends that are in the same boat ;)
DeleteMy husband and I just celebrated our first anniversary and people at church have already started the joking about gettin' on that kid business. Ahhh. Not planning on kids for quite a while, haha. No rush, right??
ReplyDeletecrazy, right?? haha, and no rush! It's great and all to have children, but just like everyone who commented I think there is a time and a place.
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ReplyDeleteWow that was odd. I just wrote an extremely long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn't show up. Grrrr... well I'm not writing all that
ReplyDeleteover again. Anyhow, just wanted to say fantastic blog!
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Yes. We should hang and cry about our baby fears together. I feel ya. I have a huge fear that if I have kids too soon I'll always think about what I could've done if I had waited a little longer and I worry that I'll regret it. I do not want to raise kids until I know that I will love my life as a mother and that I will never regret having kids when I did. And seriously. I've never really wanted kids and this pressure to have them when I'm only 20 is WAYY too much for me. I'll have them! Just give me some time!
ReplyDeleteObviously we women have a lot to say on this subject so anyways...
oh i love your post, i haven't been to your site in a while.. but i am mormon, married at 19- which i never would have imagined but it happened anyway, life happens when its suppose to.. I'm from TN moved away to BYUIdaho met my husband who is from Rexburg, so we are now somewhat apart of that "mormon bubble" that utah has too.. we waited almost 5 years until we decided we were "ready" for kids.. still weren't totally ready b/c how can you commit to such a thing! at that point we just let things happen - no planning no preventing.. but i so get what you are talking about & i think its an absurd way of thinking and some girls almost compete to have them. sad that some take it to that extreme but i think it is apart of the bubble - where i am from my non-lds friends are just now getting married - after we have celebrated our 7th anniversary. I love it out west but ya kinda just have to not care about the whole kid thing! do it when you're ready enjoy life on your time! you won't get this time back where it is just you two young and free - kids are amazing but you will have the rest of your life to enjoy that time too!
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